Okay, you guys aren't going to believe this but it's working! I wriggled into office an hour ago and after trying to figure out the VirtualBox (XP) passwd and checking my mail, I fired up the Linux TBird client, accepted the certificate and my Sent folder disappears but Trash doesn't, and works! Then i save a Draft and hey! it creates, but with the wrong icon! Ditto Templates. So i restart TBird and now everything works, with the right icons!
I even rm -rf ~/mail, delete my TBird account, recreate the account and it's working exactly as Charles said it would. I also tried deleting those keys I added - I couldn't purge them completely but i nulled them and it continues to work. WHAT THE HECK!!
Tools > Account Settings > Server Settings > Advanced set to? It's a buggy, moth infested, Linux client - you guys are using the windows TBird client.
You guys are great, and i guess a good nights sleep can help <g> Ah jeeze! <g> Now to hurl this crud in my managers face and learn some Perl :P Thanks again for all the hand holding :P